to the japanese baby the beginning of life is not very different from its beginning to babies in the western world. its birth, whether it be girl or boy, is the cause of much rejoicing. as boys alone can carry on the family name and inherit titles and estates, they are considered of more importance, but many parents' hearts are made glad by the addition of a daughter to the family circle.
as soon as the event takes place, a special messenger is dispatched to notify relatives and intimate friends, while formal letters of announcement are sent to those less closely related. all persons thus notified must make an early visit to the newcomer, in order to welcome it into the[2] world, and must either take with them or send before them some present. toys, pieces of cotton, silk, or crêpe for the baby's dress are regarded as suitable; and everything must be accompanied by fish or eggs, for good luck. where eggs are sent, they are neatly arranged in a covered box, which may contain thirty, forty, or even one hundred eggs.[1] the baby, especially if it be the first one in a family, receives many presents in the first few weeks of its life, and at a certain time proper acknowledgment must be made and return presents sent. this is done when the baby is about thirty days old.
both baby and mother have a hard time of it for the first few weeks of its life. the baby is passed from hand to hand, fussed over, and talked to so much by the visitors that come in, that it must think this world a trying place. the mother, too, is denied the rest and quiet she needs, and wears[3] herself out in the excitement of seeing her friends, and the physical exercise of going through, so far as possible, the ceremonious bows and salutations that etiquette prescribes.
before the seventh day the baby receives its name.[2] there is no especial ceremony connected with this, but the child's birth must be formally registered, together with its name, at the district office of registration, and the household keep holiday in honor of the event. a certain kind of rice, cooked with red beans, a festival dish denoting good fortune, is usually partaken of by the family on the seventh day.
the next important event in the baby's life is the miya mairi, a ceremony which[4] corresponds roughly with our christening. on the thirtieth day after birth,[*] the baby is taken for its first visit to the temple. for this visit great preparations are made, and the baby is dressed in finest silk or crêpe, gayly figured,—garments made especially for the occasion. upon the dress appears in various places the crest of the family, as on all ceremonial dresses, whether for young or old, for every japanese family has its crest. thus arrayed, and accompanied by members of the family, the young baby is carried to one of the shinto temples, and there placed under the protection of the patron deity of the temple. this god, chosen from a great number of shinto deities, is supposed to become the special guardian of the child through life. offerings are made to the god and to the priest, and a blessing is obtained; and the baby is thus formally placed under the care of a special deity. this ceremony over, there is usually an entertainment of some kind at the home of the parents, especially if the family be one of high rank. friends are invited, and if there are any who have not as yet sent in presents, they may give them at this time.
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it is usually on this day that the family send to their friends some acknowledgment of the presents received. this sometimes consists of the red bean rice, such as is prepared for the seventh day celebration, and sometimes of cakes of mochi, or rice paste. a letter of thanks usually accompanies the return present. if rice is sent, it is put in a handsome lacquered box, the box placed on a lacquered tray, and the whole covered with a square of crêpe or silk, richly decorated. the box, the tray, and the cover are of course returned, and, curious to say, the box must be returned unwashed, as it would be very unlucky to send it back clean. a piece of japanese paper must be slipped into the box after its contents have been removed, and box and tray must be given back, just as they are, to the messenger. sometimes a box of eggs, or a peculiar kind of dried fish, called katsuobushi, is sent with this present, when it is desired to make an especially handsome return. when as many as fifty or one hundred return presents of this kind are to be sent, it is no slight tax on the mistress of the house to see that no one is forgotten, and that all is[6] properly done. as special messengers are sent, a number of men are sometimes kept busy for two or three days.
after all these festivities, a quiet, undisturbed life begins for the baby,—a life which is neither unpleasant nor unhealthful. it is not jolted, rocked, or trotted to sleep; it is allowed to cry if it chooses, without anybody's supposing that the world will come to an end because of its crying; and its dress is loose and easily put on, so that very little time is spent in the tiresome process of dressing and undressing. under these conditions the baby thrives and grows strong and fat; learns to take life with some philosophy, even at a very early age; and is not subject to fits of hysterical or passionate crying, brought on by much jolting or trotting, or by the wearisome process of pinning, buttoning, tying of strings, and thrusting of arms into tight sleeves.
the japanese baby's dress, though not as pretty as that of our babies, is in many ways much more sensible. it consists of as many wide-sleeved, straight, silk, cotton, or flannel garments as the season of the year may require,—all cut after nearly[7] the same pattern, and that pattern the same in shape as the grown-up kimono. these garments are fitted, one inside of the other, before they are put on; then they are laid down on the floor and the baby is laid into them; a soft belt, attached to the outer garment or dress, is tied around the waist, and the baby is dressed without a shriek or a wail, as simply and easily as possible. the baby's dresses, like those of our babies, are made long enough to cover the little bare feet; and the sleeves cover the hands as well, so preventing the unmerciful scratching that most babies give to their faces, as well as keeping the hands warm and dry.
babies of the lower classes, within a few weeks after birth, are carried about tied upon the back of some member of the family, frequently an older sister or brother, who is sometimes not more than five or six years old. the poorer the family, the earlier is the young baby thus put on some one's back, and one frequently sees babies not more than a month old, with bobbing heads and blinking eyes, tied by long bands of cloth to the backs of older brothers or sisters, and living in the streets in all[8] weathers. when it is cold, the sister's haori, or coat, serves as an extra covering for the baby as well; and when the sun is hot, the sister's parasol keeps off its rays from the bobbing bald head.[*] living in public, as the japanese babies do, they soon acquire an intelligent, interested look, and seem to enjoy the games of the elder children, upon whose backs they are carried, as much as the players themselves. babies of the middle classes do not live in public in this way, but ride about upon the backs of their nurses until they are old enough to toddle by themselves, and they are not so often seen in the streets; as few but the poorest japanese, even in the large cities, are unable to have a pleasant bit of garden in which the children can play and take the air. the children of the richest families, the nobility, and the imperial family, are never carried about in this way. the young child is borne in the arms of an attendant, within doors and without; but as this requires the care of some one constantly, and prevents the nurse from doing anything but care for the child, only the richest can afford this luxury. with the baby tied to her back, a[9] woman is able to care for a child, and yet go on with her household labors, and baby watches over mother's or nurse's shoulder, between naps taken at all hours, the processes of drawing water, washing and cooking rice, and all the varied work of the house. imperial babies are held in the arms of some one night and day, from the moment of birth until they have learned to walk, a custom which seems to render the lot of the high-born infant less comfortable in some ways than that of the plebeian child.
the flexibility of the knees, which is required for comfort in the japanese method of sitting, is gained in very early youth by the habit of setting a baby down with its knees bent under it, instead of with its legs out straight before it, as seems to us the natural way. to the japanese, the normal way for a baby to sit is with its knees bent under it, and so, at a very early age, the muscles and tendons of the knees are accustomed to what seems to us a most unnatural and uncomfortable posture.[3]
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among the lower classes, where there are few bathing facilities in the houses, babies of a few weeks old are often taken to the public bath house and put into the hot bath. these japanese baths are usually heated to a temperature of a hundred to a hundred and twenty fahrenheit,—a temperature that most foreigners visiting japan find almost unbearable. to a baby's delicate skin, the first bath or two is usually a severe trial, but it soon becomes accustomed to the high temperature, and takes its bath, as it does everything else, placidly and in public. born into a country where cow's milk is never used, the japanese baby is wholly dependent upon[11] its mother for milk,[4] and is not weaned entirely until it reaches the age of three or four years, and is able to live upon the ordinary food of the class to which it belongs. there is no intermediate stage of bread and milk, oatmeal and milk, gruel, or pap of some kind; for the all-important factor—milk—is absent from the bill of fare, in a land where there is neither "milk for babes" nor "strong meat for them that are full of age."
in consequence, partly, of the lack of proper nourishment after the child is too old to live wholly upon its mother's milk, and partly, perhaps, because of the poor food that the mothers, even of the higher classes, live upon, many babies in japan are afflicted with disagreeable skin troubles, especially of the scalp and face,—troubles which usually disappear as soon as the child becomes accustomed to the regular food of the adult. another consequence, as i imagine, of the[12] lack of proper food at the teething period, is the early loss of the child's first teeth, which usually turn black and decay some time before the second teeth begin to show themselves. with the exception of these two troubles, japanese babies seem healthy, hearty, and happy to an extraordinary degree, and show that most of the conditions of their lives are wholesome. the constant out-of-door life and the healthful dress serve to make up in considerable measure for the poor food, and the japanese baby, though small after the manner of the race, is usually plump, and of firm, hard flesh. one striking characteristic of the japanese baby is, that at a very early age it learns to cling like a kitten to the back of whoever carries it, so that it is really difficult to drop it through carelessness, for the baby looks out for its own safety like a young monkey. the straps that tie it to the back are sufficient for safety; but the baby, from the age of one month, is dependent upon its own exertions to secure a comfortable position, and it soon learns to ride its bearer with considerable skill, instead of being merely a bundle tied to the shoulders. any one[13] who has ever handled a japanese baby can testify to the amount of intelligence shown in this direction at a very early age; and this clinging with arms and legs is, perhaps, a valuable part of the training which gives to the whole nation the peculiar quickness of motion and hardness of muscle that characterize them from childhood. it is the agility and muscular quality that belong to wild animals, that we see something of in the indian, but to a more marked degree in the japanese, especially of the lower classes.
the japanese baby's first lessons in walking are taken under favorable circumstances. with feet comfortably shod in the soft tabi, or mitten-like sock, babies can tumble about as they like, with no bump nor bruise, upon the soft matted floors of the dwelling houses. there is no furniture to fall against, and nothing about the room to render falling a thing to be feared. after learning the art of walking in the house, the baby's first attempts out of doors are hampered by the zori or géta,—a light straw sandal or small wooden clog attached to the foot by a strap passing between the toes. at the very beginning the[14] sandal or clog is tied to the baby's foot by bits of string fastened around the ankle, but this provision for security is soon discarded, and the baby patters along like the grown people, holding on the géta by the strap passing between the toes. this somewhat cumbersome and inconvenient foot gear must cause many falls at first, but baby's experience in the art of balancing upon people's backs now aids in this new art of balancing upon the little wooden clogs. babies of two or three trot about quite comfortably in géta that seem to give most insecure footing, and older children run, jump, hop on one foot, and play all manner of active games upon heavy clogs that would wrench our ankles and toes out of all possibility of usefulness. this foot gear, while producing an awkward, shuffling gait, has certain advantages over our own, especially for children whose feet are growing rapidly. the géta, even if outgrown, can never cramp the toes nor compress the ankles. if the foot is too long for the clog the heel laps over behind, but the toes do not suffer, and the use of the géta strengthens the ankles by affording no artificial aid or support, and giving to[15] all the muscles of foot and leg free play, with the foot in a natural position. the toes of the japanese retain their prehensile qualities to a surprising degree, and are used, not only for grasping the foot gear, but among mechanics almost like two supplementary hands, to aid in holding the thing worked upon. each toe knows its work and does it, and they are not reduced to the dull uniformity of motion that characterizes the toes of a leather-shod nation.
the distinction between the dress of the boy and the girl, that one notices from childhood, begins in babyhood. a very young baby wears red and yellow, but soon the boy is dressed in sober colors,—blues, grays, greens, and browns; while the little girl still wears the most gorgeous of colors and the largest of patterns in her garments, red being the predominant hue. the sex, even of a young baby, may be distinguished by the color of its clothing. white, the garb of mourning in japan, is never used for children, but the minutest babies are dressed in bright-colored garments, and of the same materials—wadded cotton, silk, or crêpe—as those worn by adults of their social grade. as these[16] dresses are not as easily washed as our own cambric and flannel baby clothes, there is a loss among the poorer classes in the matter of cleanliness; and the gorgeous soiled gowns are not as attractive as the more washable white garments in which our babies are dressed. for model clothing for a baby, i would suggest a combination of the japanese style with the foreign, easily washed materials,—a combination that i have seen used in their own families by japanese ladies educated abroad, and one in which the objections to the japanese style of dress are entirely obviated.
the japanese baby begins to practice the accomplishment of talking at a very early age, for its native language is singularly happy in easy expressions for children; and little babies will be heard chattering away in soft, easily spoken words long before they are able to venture alone from their perches on their mothers' or nurses' backs. a few simple words express much, and cover all wants. iya expresses discontent or dislike of any kind, and is also used for "no"; mam ma means food; bé bé is the dress; ta ta is the sock, or house shoe, etc. we find many of the same sounds as in the[17] baby language of english, with meanings totally different. the baby is not troubled with difficult grammatical changes, for the japanese language has few inflections; and it is too young to be puzzled with the intricacies of the various expressions denoting different degrees of politeness, which are the snare and the despair of the foreigner studying japanese.
as our little girl emerges from babyhood she finds the life opening before her a bright and happy one, but one hedged about closely by the proprieties, and one in which, from babyhood to old age, she must expect to be always under the control of one of the stronger sex. her position will be an honorable and respected one only as she learns in her youth the lesson of cheerful obedience, of pleasing manners, and of personal cleanliness and neatness. her duties must be always either within the house, or, if she belongs to the peasant class, on the farm. there is no career or vocation open to her: she must be dependent always upon either father, husband, or son, and her greatest happiness is to be gained, not by cultivation of the intellect, but by the early acquisition of the self-control [18]which is expected of all japanese women to an even greater degree than of the men. this self-control must consist, not simply in the concealment of all the outward signs of any disagreeable emotion,—whether of grief, anger, or pain,—but in the assumption of a cheerful smile and agreeable manner under even the most distressing of circumstances. the duty of self-restraint is taught to the little girls of the family from the tenderest years; it is their great moral lesson, and is expatiated upon at all times by their elders. the little girl must sink herself entirely, must give up always to others, must never show emotions except such as will be pleasing to those about her: this is the secret of true politeness, and must be mastered if the woman wishes to be well thought of and to lead a happy life. the effect of this teaching is seen in the attractive but dignified manners of the japanese women, and even of the very little girls. they are not forward nor pushing, neither are they awkwardly bashful; there is no self-consciousness, neither is there any lack of savoir faire; a childlike simplicity is united with a womanly consideration for the comfort of those around[19] them. a japanese child seems to be the product of a more perfect civilization than our own, for it comes into the world with little of the savagery and barbarian bad manners that distinguish children in this country, and the first ten or fifteen years of its life do not seem to be passed in one long struggle to acquire a coating of good manners that will help to render it less obnoxious in polite society. how much of the politeness of the japanese is the result of training, and how much is inherited from generations of civilized ancestors, it is difficult to tell; but my impression is, that babies are born into the world with a good start in the matter of manners, and that the uniformly gentle and courteous treatment that they receive from those about them, together with the continual verbal teaching of the principle of self-restraint and thoughtfulness of others, produce with very little difficulty the universally attractive manners of the people. one curious thing in a japanese household is to see the formalities that pass between brothers and sisters, and the respect paid to age by every member of the family. the grandfather and grandmother come first of all in[20] everything,—no one at table must be helped before them in any case; after them come the father and mother; and lastly, the children according to their ages. a younger sister must always wait for the elder and pay her due respect, even in the matter of walking into the room before her. the wishes and convenience of the elder, rather than of the younger, are to be consulted in everything, and this lesson must be learned early by children. the difference in years may be slight, but the elder-born has the first right in all cases.
our little girl's place in the family is a pleasant one: she is the pet and plaything of father and elder brothers, and she is never saluted by any one in the family, except her parents, without the title of respect due to her position. if she is the eldest daughter, to the servants she is o jo sama, literally, young lady; to her own brothers and sisters, né san, elder sister. should she be one of the younger ones, her given name, preceded by the honorific o and followed by san, meaning miss, will be the name by which she will be called by younger brothers and sisters, and[21] by the servants. as she passes from babyhood to girlhood, and from girlhood to womanhood, she is the object of much love and care and solicitude; but she does not grow up irresponsible or untrained to meet the duties which womanhood will surely bring to her. she must learn all the duties that fall upon the wife and mother of a japanese household, as well as obtain the instruction in books and mathematics that is coming to be more and more a necessity for the women of japan. she must take a certain responsibility in the household; must see that tea is made for the guests who may be received by her parents,—in all but the families of highest rank, must serve it herself. indeed, it is quite the custom in families of the higher classes, should a guest, whom it is desired to receive with especial honor, dine at the house, to serve the meal, not with the family, but separately for the father and his visitor; and it is the duty of the wife or daughter, oftener the latter, to wait on them. this is in honor of the guest, not on account of the lack of servants, for there may be any number of them within call, or even in the back part of the room, ready[22] to receive from the hands of the young girl what she has removed. she must, therefore, know the proper etiquette of the table, how to serve carefully and neatly, and, above all, have the skill to ply the saké bottle, so that the house may keep up its reputation for hospitality. should guests arrive in the absence of her parents, she must receive and entertain them until the master or mistress of the house returns. she also feels a certain care about the behavior of the younger members of the family, especially in the absence of the parents. in these various ways she is trained for taking upon herself the cares of a household when the time comes. in all but the very wealthiest and most aristocratic families, the daughters of the house do a large part of the simple housework. in a house with no furniture, no carpets, no bric-à-brac, no mirrors, picture frames or glasses to be cared for, no stoves or furnaces, no windows to wash, a large part of the cooking to be done outside, and no latest styles to be imitated in clothing, the amount of work to be done by women is considerably diminished, but still there remains enough to take a good deal of time.[23] every morning there are the beds to be rolled up and stored away in the closet, the mosquito nets to be taken down, the rooms to be swept, dusted, and aired before breakfast. besides this, there is the washing and polishing of the engawa, or piazza, which runs around the outside of a japanese house between the shoji, or paper screens that serve as windows, and the amado, or sliding shutters, that are closed only at night, or during heavy, driving rains. breakfast is to be cooked and served, dishes to be washed (in cold water); and then perhaps there is marketing to be done, either at shops outside or from the vendors of fish and vegetables who bring their huge baskets of provisions to the door; but after these duties are performed, it is possible to sit down quietly to the day's work of sewing, studying, or whatever else may suit the taste or necessities of the housewife. of sewing there is always a good deal to be done, for many japanese dresses must be taken to pieces whenever they are washed, and are turned, dyed, and made over again and again, so long as there is a shred of the original material left to work upon. there is washing, [24]too, to be done, although neither with hot water nor soap; and in the place of ironing, the cotton garments, which are usually washed without ripping, must be hung up on a bamboo pole passed through the armholes, and pulled smooth and straight before they dry; and the silk, always ripped into breadths before washing, must be smoothed while wet upon a board which is set in the sun until the silk is dry.
then there are the every day dishes which our japanese maiden must learn to prepare. the proper boiling of rice is in itself a study. the construction of the various soups which form the staple in the japanese bill of fare; the preparation of mochi, a kind of rice dough, which is prepared at the new year, or to send to friends on various festival occasions: these and many other branches of the culinary art must be mastered before the young girl is prepared to assume the cares of married life.
but though the little girl's life is not without its duties and responsibilities, it is also not at all lacking in simple and innocent pleasures.[*] first among the annual[25] festivals, and bringing with it much mirth and frolic, comes the feast of the new year. at this time father, mother, and all older members of the family lay aside their work and their dignity, and join in the fun and sports that are characteristic of this season. worries and anxieties are set aside with the close of the year, and the first beams of the new year's sun bring in a season of unlimited joy for the children. for about one week the festival lasts, and the festal spirit remains through the whole month, prompting to fun and amusements of all kinds. from early morning until bedtime the children wear their prettiest clothes, in which they play without rebuke. guests come and go, bringing congratulations to the family, and often gifts for all. the children's stock of toys is thus greatly increased, and the house overflows with the good things of the season, of which mochi, or cake made from rice dough, prepared always especially for this time, is one of the most important articles.
the children are taken with their parents to make new year's visits to their friends and to offer them congratulations,[26] and much they enjoy this, as, dressed in their best, they ride from house to house in jinrikishas.[5]
and then, during the long, happy evenings, the whole family, including even the old grandfather and grandmother, join in merry games; the servants, too, are invited to join the family party, and, without seeming forward or out of place, enter into the games with zest. one of the favorite games is "hyaku nin isshu," literally "the poems of a hundred poets." it consists of two hundred cards, on each of which is printed either the first or last half of one of the hundred famous japanese poems which give the name to the game. the poems are well known to all japanese, of whatever sort or condition. all japanese poems are short, containing only thirty-one syllables, and have a natural division into two parts. the one hundred cards containing the latter halves of the poems are dealt and laid out in rows, face upward, before the players. one person is appointed [27]reader. to him are given the remaining hundred cards, and he reads the beginnings of the poems in whatever order they come from the shuffled pack. skill in the game consists in remembering quickly the line following the one read, and rapidly finding the card on which it is written. especially does the player watch his own cards, and if he finds there the end of the poem, the beginning of which has just been read, he must pick it up before any one sees it and lay it aside. if some one else spies the card first, he seizes it and gives to the careless player several cards from his own hand. whoever first disposes of all his cards is the winner. the players usually arrange themselves in two lines down the middle of the room, and the two sides play against each other, the game not being ended until either one side or the other has disposed of all its cards. the game requires great quickness of thought and of motion, and is invaluable in giving to all young people an education in the classical poetry of their own nation, as well as being a source of great merriment and jollity among young and old.
scattered throughout the year are various [28]flower festivals, when, often with her whole family, our little girl visits the famous gardens where the plum, the cherry, the chrysanthemum, the iris, or the azalea attain their greatest loveliness, and spends the day out of doors in ?sthetic enjoyment of the beauties of nature supplemented by art. and then there is the feast most loved in the whole year, the feast of dolls, when on the third day of the third month the great fire-proof storehouse gives forth its treasures of dolls,—in an old family, many of them hundreds of years old,—and for three days, with all their belongings of tiny furnishings in silver, lacquer, and porcelain, they reign supreme, arranged on red-covered shelves in the finest room of the house. most prominent among the dolls are the effigies of the emperor and empress in antique court costume, seated in dignified calm, each on a lacquered dais. near them are the figures of the five court musicians in their robes of office, each with his instrument. beside these dolls, which are always present and form the central figures at the feast, numerous others, more plebeian, but more lovable, find places on the lower shelves,[29] and the array of dolls' furnishings which is brought out on these occasions is something marvelous. it was my privilege to be present at the feast of dolls in the house of one of the tokugawa daimios, a house in which the old forms and ceremonies were strictly observed, and over which the wave of foreign innovation had passed so slightly that even the calendar still remained unchanged, and the feast took place upon the third day of the third month of the old japanese year, instead of on the third day of march, which is the usual time for it now. at this house, where the dolls had been accumulating for hundreds of years, five or six broad, red-covered shelves, perhaps twenty feet long or more, were completely filled with them and with their belongings. the emperor and empress appeared again and again, as well as the five court musicians, and the tiny furnishings and utensils were wonderfully costly and beautiful. before each emperor and empress was set an elegant lacquered table service,—tray, bowls, cups, saké pots, rice buckets, etc., all complete; and in each utensil was placed the appropriate variety of food. the saké used on[30] this occasion is a sweet, white liquor, brewed especially for this feast, as different from the ordinary saké as sweet cider is from the hard cider upon which a man may drink himself into a state of intoxication.[*] besides the table service, everything that an imperial doll can be expected to need or desire is placed upon the shelves. lacquered norimono, or palanquins; lacquered bullock carts, drawn by bow-legged black bulls,—these were the conveyances of the great in old japan, and these, in minute reproductions, are placed upon the red-covered shelves. tiny silver and brass hibachi, or fire boxes, are there, with their accompanying tongs and charcoal baskets,—whole kitchens, with everything required for cooking the finest of japanese feasts, as finely made as if for actual use; all the necessary toilet apparatus,—combs, mirrors, utensils for blackening the teeth, for shaving the eyebrows, for reddening the lips and whitening the face,—all these things are there to delight the souls of all the little girls who may have the opportunity to behold them. for three days the imperial effigies are served sumptuously at each meal, and the little girls of[31] the family take pleasure in serving their imperial majesties; but when the feast ends, the dolls and their belongings are packed away in their boxes, and lodged in the fire-proof warehouse for another year.
the tokugawa collection, of which i have spoken, is remarkably full and costly, for it has been making for hundreds of years in one of the younger branches of a family which for two and a half centuries was possessed of almost imperial power, and lived in more than imperial luxury; but there are few households so poor that they do not from year to year accumulate a little store of toys wherewith to celebrate the feast, and, whether the toys are many or few, the feast is the event of the year in the lives of the little girls of japan.[*]
beside the regular feasts at stated seasons, our little girl has a great variety of toys and games, some belonging to particular seasons, some played at any time during the year. at the new year the popular out-of-door games are battledoor and shuttlecock, and ball. there is no prettier sight, to my mind, than a group of little girls in their many-colored wide-sleeved [32]dresses playing with battledoor or ball. the graceful, rhythmic motion of their bodies, the bright upturned eyes, the laughing faces, are set off to perfection by the coloring of their flowing drapery; and their agility on their high, lacquered clogs is a constant source of wonder and admiration to any one who has ever made an effort to walk upon the clumsy things. there are dolls, too, that are not relegated to the storehouse when the feast of dolls is ended, but who are the joy and comfort of their little mothers during the whole year; and at every kwan-ko-ba, or bazaar, an endless variety of games, puzzles, pictures to be cut out and glued together, and amusements of all kinds, may be purchased at extremely low rates. there is no dearth of games for our little girl, and many pleasant hours are spent in the household sitting room with games, or conundrums, or stories, or the simple girlish chatter that elicits constant laughter from sheer youthful merriment.
as for fairy tales, so dear to the hearts of children in every country, the japanese child has her full share. often she listens, half asleep, while cuddling under the warm[33] quilted cover of the kotatsu,[6] in the cold winter evenings, to the drowsy voice of the old grandmother or nurse, who carries her away on the wings of imagination to the wonderful palace of the sea gods, or to the haunts of the terrible oni, monsters with red, distorted faces and fearful horns. momotaro, the peach boy, with his wonderful feats in the conquest of the oni, is her hero, until he is supplanted by the more real ones of japanese history.
there are occasional all-day visits to the theatre, too, where, seated on the floor in a box, railed off from those adjoining, our little girl, in company with her mother and sisters, enjoys, though with paroxysms of horror and fear, the heroic historical plays which are now almost all that is left of the heroic old japan. here she catches the spirit of passionate loyalty that belonged to those days, forms her ideals of what a noble japanese woman should be willing to do for parents or husband, and comes away taught, as she could be by no other[34] teaching, what the spirit was that animated her ancestors,—what spirit must animate her, should she wish to be a worthy descendant of the women of old.
among these surroundings, with these duties and amusements, our little girl grows to womanhood. the unconscious and beautiful spirit of her childhood is not driven away at the dawn of womanhood by thoughts of beaux, of coming out in society, of a brief career of flirtation and conquest, and at the end as fine a marriage, either for love or money, as her imagination can picture. she takes no thought for these things herself, and her intercourse with young men, though free and unconstrained, has about it no grain of flirtation or romantic interest. when the time comes for her to marry, her father will have her meet some eligible young man, and both she and the young man will know, when they are brought together, what is the end in view, and will make up their minds about the matter. but until that time comes, the modest japanese maiden carries on no flirtations, thinks little of men except as higher beings to be deferred to and waited on, and preserves[35] the childlike innocence of manner, combined with a serene dignity under all circumstances, that is so noticeable a trait in the japanese woman from childhood to old age.
the japanese woman is, under this discipline, a finished product at the age of sixteen or eighteen. she is pure, sweet, and amiable, with great power of self-control, and a knowledge of what to do upon all occasions. the higher part of her nature is little developed; no great religious truths have lifted her soul above the world into a clearer and higher atmosphere; but as far as she goes, in regard to all the little things of daily life, she is bright, industrious, sweet-tempered, and attractive, and prepared to do well her duty, when that duty comes to her, as wife and mother and mistress of a household. the highest principle upon which she is taught to act is obedience, even to the point of violating all her finest feminine instincts, at the command of father or husband; and acting under that principle, she is capable of an entire self-abnegation such as few women of any race can achieve.
with the close of her childhood, the[36] happiest period in the life of a japanese woman closes. the discipline that she has received so far, repressive and constant as it has often been, has been from kind and loving parents. she has freedom, to a certain degree, such as is unknown to any other country in asia. in the home she is truly loved, often the pet and plaything of the household, though not receiving the caresses and words of endearment that children in america expect as a right, for love in japan is undemonstrative.[7] but just at the time when her mind broadens, and the desire for knowledge and self-improvement develops, the restraints and checks upon her become more severe. her sphere seems to grow narrower, difficulties one by one increase, and the young girl, who sees life before her as something broad and expansive, who looks to the future with expectant joy, may become, in a few years, the weary, disheartened woman.
footnotes:
[1] all presents in japan must be wrapped in white paper, although, except for funerals, this paper must have some writing on it, and must be tied with a peculiar red and white paper string, in which is inserted the noshi, or bit of dried fish, daintily folded in a piece of colored paper, which is an indispensable accompaniment of every present.
[2] a child is rarely given the name of a living member of the family, or of any friend. the father's name, slightly modified, is frequently given to a son, and those of ancestors long ago dead are sometimes used. one reason for this is probably the inconvenience of similar names in the same family, and middle names, as a way of avoiding this difficulty, are unknown. the father usually names the child, but some friend or patron of the family may be asked to do it. names of beautiful objects in nature, such as plum, snow, sunshine, lotos, gold, are commonly used for girls, while boys of the lower classes often rejoice in such appellations as stone, bear, tiger, etc. to call a child after a person would not be considered any especial compliment.[*]
[3] that the position of the japanese in sitting is really unnatural and unhygienic, is shown by recent measurements taken by the surgeons of the japanese army. these measurements prove that the small stature of the japanese is due largely to the shortness of the lower limbs, which are out of proportion to the rest of the body. the sitting from early childhood upon the legs bent at the knee, arrests the development of that part of the body, and produces an actual deformity in the whole nation. this deformity is less noticeable among the peasants, who stand and walk so much as to secure proper development of the legs; but among merchants, literary men, and others of sedentary habits, it is most plainly to be seen. the introduction of chairs and tables, as a necessary adjunct of japanese home life, would doubtless in time alter the physique of the japanese as a people.
[4] sometimes, in the old days, rice water was given to babies instead of milk, but it was nearly impossible to bring up a baby on this alone. now both fresh and condensed milk are used, where the mother's milk is insufficient, but only in those parts of japan where the foreign influence is felt.[*]
[5] jinrikisha, or kuruma, a small, light carriage, usually with a broad top, which is drawn by a man. the jinrikisha is the commonest of all vehicles now in use in japan. jinrikisha-man and kurumaya are terms commonly used for the runner who draws the carriage.
[6] kotatsu, a charcoal fire in a brazier or a small fireplace in the floor, over which a wooden frame is set and the whole covered by a quilt. the family sit about it in cold weather with the quilt drawn up over the feet and knees.
[7] kisses are unknown, and regarded by conservative japanese as an animal and disgusting way of expressing affection.