sunday, march 19, 1944

dearest kitty,

yesterday was a very important day for me. after lunch everything was as usual. at five i put on the potatoes, and mother gave me some blood sausage to take to peter. i didn't want to at first, but i finally went. he wouldn't accept the sausage, and i had the dreadful feel- ing it was still because of that argument we'd had about distrust. suddenly i couldn't bear it a moment longer and my eyes filled with tears. without another word, i re- turned the platter to mother and went to the bathroom to have a good cry. afterward i decided to talk things out with peter. before dinner the four of us were helping him with a crossword puzzle, so i couldn't say anything. but as we were sitting down to eat, i whispered to him, "are you going to practice your shorthand tonight, peter?"

"no," was his reply.

"i'd like to talk to you later on."

he agreed.

after the dishes were done, i went to his room and asked if he'd refused the sausage because of our last quar- rel. luckily, that wasn't the reason; he just thought it was bad manners to seem so eager. it had been very hot downstairs and my face was as red as a lobster. so after taking down some water for margot, i went back up to get a little fresh air. for the sake of appearances, i first went and stood beside the van daans' window before going to peter's room. he was standing on the left side of the open window, so i went over to the right side. it's much easier to talk next to an open window in semidarkness than in broad daylight, and i think peter felt the same way. we told each other so much, so very much, that i can't repeat it all. but it felt good; it was the most won- derful evening i've ever had in the annex. i'll give you a brief description of the various subjects we touched on.

first we talked about the quarrels and how i see them in a very different light these days, and then about how we've become alienated from our parents. i told peter about mother and father and margot and myself. at one point he asked, "you always give each other a good-night kiss, don't you?"

"one? dozens of them. you don't, do you?"

"no, i've never really kissed anyone."

"not even on your birthday?"

"yeah, on my birthday i have."

we talked about how neither of us really trusts our parents, and how his parents love each other a great deal and wish he'd confide in them, but that he doesn't want to. how i cry my heart out in bed and he goes up to the loft and swears. how margot and i have only recently gotten to know each other and yet still tell each other very little, since we're always together. we talked about every imaginable thing, about trust, feelings and ourselves. oh, kitty, he was just as i thought he would be.

then we talked about the year 1942, and how different we were back then; we don't even recognize ourselves from that period. how we couldn't stand each other at first. he'd thought i was a noisy pest, and i'd quickly concluded that he was nothing special. i didn't understand why he didn't flirt with me, but now i'm glad. he also mentioned how he often used to retreat to his room. i said that my noise and exuberance and his silence were two sides of the same coin, and that i also liked peace and quiet but don't have anything for myself alone, except my diary, and that everyone would rather see the back of me, starting with mr. dussel, and that i don't always want to sit with my parents. we discussed how glad he is that my parents have children and how glad i am that he's here.

how i now understand his need to withdraw and his relationship to his parents, and how much i'd like to help him when they argue.

"but you're always a help to me!" he said.

"how?" i asked, greatly surprised.

"by being cheerful."

that was the nicest thing he said all evening. he also told me that he didn't mind my coming to his room the way he used to; in fact, he liked it. i also told him that all of father's and mother's pet names were meaningless, that a kiss here and there didn't automatically lead to trust. we also talked about doing things your own way, the diary, loneliness, the difference between everyone's inner and outer selves, my mask, etc.

it was wonderful. he must have come to love me as a friend, and, for the time being, that's enough. i'm so grateful and happy, i can't find the words. i must apolo- gize, kitty, since my style is not up to my usual standard today. i've just written whatever came into my head!

i have the feeling that peter and i share a secret. whenever he looks at me with those eyes, with that smile and that wink, it's as if a light goes on inside me. i hope things will stay like this and that we'll have many, many more happy hours together.

your grateful and happy anne