saturday, march 25, 1944

dearest kitty,

you never realize how much you've changed until after it's happened. i've changed quite drastically, everything about me is different: my opinions, ideas, critical outlook. inwardly, outwardly, nothing's the same. and, i might safely add, since it's true, i've changed for the better. i once told you that, after years of being adored, it was hard for me to adjust to the harsh reality of grown-ups and rebukes. but father and mother are largely to blame for my having to put up with so much. at home they wanted me to enjoy life, which was fine, but here they shouldn't have encouraged me to agree with them and only shown me "their" side of all the quarrels and gossip. it was a long time before i discovered the score was fifty-fifty. i now know that many blunders have been committed here, by young and old alike. father and mother's biggest mistake in dealing with the van daans is that they're never candid and friendly (admittedly, the friendliness might have to be feigned). above all, i want to keep the peace, and to neither quarrel nor gossip. with father and margot that's not difficult, but it is with mother, which is why i'm glad she gives me an occasional rap on the knuckles. you can win mr. van daan to your side by agreeing with him, listening quietly, not saying much and most of all . . . responding to his teasing and his corny jokes with a joke of your own. mrs. van d. can be won over by talking openly to her and admitting when you're wrong. she also frankly admits her faults, of which she has many. i know all too well that she doesn't think as badly of me as she did in the beginning. and that's simply because i'm honest and tell people right to their faces what i think, even when it's not very flattering. i want to be honest; i think it gets you further and also makes you feel better about yourself.

yesterday mrs. van d. was talking about the rice we gave mr. kleiman. "all we do is give, give, give. but at a certain point i think that enough is enough. if he'd only take the trouble, mr. kleiman could scrounge up his own rice. why should we give away all our supplies? we need them just as badly."

"no, mrs. van daan," i replied. "i don't agree with you. mr. kleiman may very well be able to get hold of a little rice, but he doesn't like having to worry about it. it's not our place to criticize the people who are helping us. we should give them whatever they need if we can possibly spare it. one less plate of rice a week won't make that much difference; we can always eat beans."

mrs. van d. didn't see it my way, but she added that, even though she disagreed, she was willing to back down, and that was an entirely different matter.

well, i've said enough. sometimes i know what my place is and sometimes i have my doubts, but i'll eventually get where i want to be! i know i will! especially now that i have help, since peter helps me through many a rough patch and rainy day!

i honestly don't know how much he loves me and whether we'll ever get as far as a kiss; in any case, i don't want to force the issue! i told father i often go see peter and asked if he approved, and of course he did!

it's much easier now to tell peter things i'd nor- mally keep to myself; for example, i told him i want to write later on, and if i can't be a writer, to write in addition to my work.

i don't have much in the way of money or worldly possessions, i'm not beautiful, intelligent or clever, but i'm happy, and i intend to stay that way! i was born happy, i love people, i have a trusting nature, and i'd like everyone else to be happy too.

your devoted friend, anne m. frank

an empty day, though clear and bright, is just as dark as any night.

(i wrote this a few weeks ago and it no longer holds true, but i included it because my poems are so few and far between.)