during my lonely walks and rides through the country about our village, i began to cogitate and philosophize upon the present social value of the human ear. why do people in society and in domestic circles have ears? i asked myself. they do not use them to listen to one another. and then i thought and pondered further, and suddenly the truth came to me: the ears of the present generation are not purveyors to the mind; they are merely agents of the tongue, who watch for breaks or weak places in the speech of others, in order that their principal may rush in and hold the field. they are jackals, who scent out a timid pause or an unsuspecting silence which the lion tongue straightway destroys. very forcibly the conviction came to me that nowadays we listen only for an opportunity to speak.
i was grieved that true listening had become a lost art; for without it worthy speech is impossible. to good listening is due a great part of the noble thought, the golden instruction, and the brilliant wit which has elevated, enlightened, and brightened the soul of man. there are fine minds whose workings are never expressed in writing; and even among those who, in print, spread their ideas before the world there is a certain cream of thought which is given only to listeners, if, happily, there be such.
modern conversation has degenerated into the italian game of moccoletto, in which every one endeavors to blow out the candles of the others, and keep his own alight. in such rude play there is no illumination. "there should be a reform," i declared. "there should be schools of listening. here men and women should be taught how, with sympathetic and delicate art, to draw from others the useful and sometimes precious speech which, without their skillful co?peration, might never know existence. to be willing to receive in order that good may be given should be one of the highest aims of life.
"not only should we learn to listen in order to give opportunity for the profitable speech of others, but we should do so out of charity and good will to our fellow-men. how many weary sick-beds, how many cheerless lives, how many lonely, depressed, and silent men and women, might be gladdened, and for the time transformed, by one who would come, not to speak words of cheer and comfort, but to listen to tales of suffering and trial! here would be one of the truest forms of charity; an almost unknown joy would be given to the world.
"there should be brotherhoods and sisterhoods of listeners; like good angels, they should go out among those unfortunates who have none to hear that which it would give them so much delight to say."
but alas! i knew of no such good angels. must that which i had to tell remain forever untold for the want of one? this could not be; there must exist somewhere a man or a woman who would be willing to hear my accounts of travels and experiences which, in an exceptionable degree, were interesting and valuable.
i determined to advertise for a listener.
